Always remember that you are competing at your pageant for a reason. It didn't happen randomly and it wasn't luck that got you there. It was YOUR ability. So, believe in yourself and give yourself a chance and know that anything is possible at your pageant. Do not sell yourself short or let anyone tell you do not belong because you do!
It is not all about how much time you spend preparing for a pageant! It is more about the quality of the time and using your time wisely to focus on the specific skills needed to be successful and win! Our training is centered on helping you prepare smarter by teaching you various strategies that you can apply not only to your pageant, but to your daily life as well. Our training and coaching will help you prepare smarter, so you are ready for your pageant!
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After a pageant it is always important to seek out feedback and evaluate your performance! No matter how the pageant went, there is always something to be learned!! Self-reflect and honestly evaluate your performance. What went well? What could of gone better? What are you going to change for future pageants? Ask those who you trust (family, friends, pageant directors) for their honest opinion on your performance. I think most pageant contestants do not do enough self-reflection after a pageant and instead focus too much on the outcome! Learning after a pageant and improving in an area or areas of competition- could be a game changer!! So, instead of feeling sad and overly disappointed, learn from your experience and let it fuel and guide your preparation for future pageants. Don't give up!
Two weekends ago, I attended a Miss America local competition here in Texas. Lets just say at this pageant, there were so many technical malfunctions with the microphone, lighting, and sound! At one point, a contestant could not even perform her talent portion, because of the microphone was not working. So, there she was just standing on stage in front of the audience, just waiting! They ended up fixing the issue and then had her come out on stage and introduced her again. But as a contestant, that can be so frustrating!
The main take away is that technical malfunctions do happen and you cannot control them. The only thing you can control is how you RESPOND. If your performance is interrupted or delaying by a technical malfunction, keep your composure and just breathe. It can be very tempting to get irritated, annoyed, but you have to be in control of your attitude. Otherwise, you will get stressed, which will negatively influence your performance. So, realize that technical malfunctions do happen, but its how you respond to them that really matters and is the most important thing!
When competing at a pageant, it is so easy to get crazy and preoccupied about things that you don't have control over!!! One thing you don't have control over is the appearance and performance of the other competitors! Don't waste time worrying or thinking about how the other competitors are doing. Instead, focus on executing each aspect of the pageant to the best of your ability! No need to compare yourself to others. Your only competition is yourself! So, don't treat the other contestants as competition. Just focus on you. Also, you cannot control how others may perceive yourself. Again just be you, don't worry about what other people think about you. Focus on bringing out the best version of yourself. Be genuine and embrace your uniqueness!
Here are two aspects of the pageant that you do have can control of: your preparation & your effort. How you prepare for a pageant is on you! How you prioritize and devote your time to practice and prepare is something you have control over! How well do you use your time? And your effort is also in your control. How hard are you willing to work for the crown? Preparing for a pageant is a commitment that requires much sacrifice, hard work, and discipline. So, your preparation and effort are on you!!!!
When working with pageant contestants, some have told me how they often feel the need to have a perfect performance to win. This often leads them to becoming obsessed with an unrealistic image of being perfect. Instead of worrying about being perfect, just trust and be yourself! Nobody is perfect and your performance does not have to be perfect to win. Instead, focus on executing each phase of the competition to the best of your ability! Focus on the improving and getting better each day. Focus on the process, not the outcome!! Anytime you are worrying about being perfect, you are just giving yourself unnecessary stress. Interestingly, research also shows how people who are perfectionists are less happy and also are less likely to be successful in the future! So, embrace your imperfections and just focus on giving your best effort during the pageant and let everything else go! If you do struggle with perfectionism, don't be ashamed of it. Focus on changing your mindset and learn to embrace your uniqueness.
If you've ever competed in pageants before, I am sure you can agree that there is a huge mental game of competing. Competing can be a nerve-wracking experience, especially when you are competing on the national spotlight! But it is your mindset will determine your performance. If you do not have a positive mindset, you will not be successful. You could have the perfect physical appearance, but if you don't have confidence or are unable to manage your emotions it will negatively affect your performance. Its that simple! The mental game in competing in a pageant is huge, so it should be a major part of any pageant's contestant preparation. Your mindset is truly everything. But like every other skill, developing and sustaining a positive mindset takes plenty of practice. How are you preparing mentally for your pageant?
Recently a client asked me what songs I would listen to if I were competing in a pageant. So, below are some songs in my opinion that I think are good songs to help you be confident and positive and overall get you in a good mood! Most of them are upbeat, but there are some songs that can help you reflect and be peace. They are a mix of mostly pop, Christian, and other genres! Here they are:
The Way You Make Me Feel – Michael Jackson
Stars Are Blind- Paris Hilton (yes Paris Hilton- this is such an underrated song)
No Excuses- Meghan Trainor (this song was played at Miss Texas and at Miss USA)
Me Too- Meghan Trainor
Start A Fire- John Legend (La La Land) (this song was also played at Miss TX)
Sledgehammer- Fifth Harmony
Right in Front Of You- Celine Dion (huge fan of her music)
The Climb- Miley Cyrus
Stronger- Britney Spears
My Prerogative- Britney Spears
Never Had A Dream Come True- S Club 7 (great song)
Good Good Father- Chris Tomlin
Whatever It Takes- Imagine Dragons
Trust In You- Lauren Daigle
Real Love- Clean Bandit & Jess Glynne
In My Blood- Shawn Mendes
Ready for It?- Taylor Swift
Let Me Go- Hailee Steinfeld, Florida Georgia Line
Most Girls- Hailee Steinfeld (big fan of her music)
Love Myself- Hailee Steinfeld
I’m Gonna Getcha Good! –Shania Twain (she has many good songs)
The Champion- Carrie Underwood & Ludacris
For You-Rita Ora & Niall Horan
The Way You Love Me- Faith Hill
No Promises- Cheat Codes feat Demi Lovato
Brand New- Ben Rector
Glorious Day- Passion
Ain’t It Funny- Jennifer Lopez
Intentional- Travis Greene
Wavin Flag- Knaan
Conga- Gloria Estefan
Can’t Stop the Feeling- Justin Timberlake
-Classical Music can also be good music to relax/focus
-Movie/ Musical soundtracks (ex. The Greatest Showman) are good as well
The point is to find songs you like and make a playlist! And listen to them! Music can really help to get you in a good mood and mindset, which could help you during the pageant!
A few weeks ago Gretchen Carlson, the current president of the Miss America Organization, made headlines when she announced on Good Morning America that the Miss America pageant contestants would no longer be judged on their physical appearance. She explained that the pageant was eliminating both the swimsuit and evening gown competition. Whether removing the swimsuit portion was the right decision or not, it has certainly evoked strong opinions on both sides!
However, Ms. Carlson did say something really important when discussing the changes. She said referring to the revamped Miss America pageant that “We are no longer a pageant. We are a competition.” That statement is so true! Competing in a pageant has always been a competition because you are vying against others to win the crown. To be successful, you must outperform the rest of the contestants. It is that simple! So, whether you are a contestant at the Miss America, Miss USA, or Miss Earth pageant, you are participating in a competition! Therefore, you need to be trained like you are competing in a competition. And that is where mental skills training can be so beneficial! Having a mental edge is so crucial as it can give you an advantage over your competitors!